Enter front gates and drive straight ahead; at the Barnaby monument, turn left onto Junction Avenue and bear right at the Daniels grave marker onto Pond Avenue; go as straight as you can until you reach a "T" intersection with Avenue B; the Phillips family plot is directly in front of you; Lovecraft's stone is behind the bigger family monument.
Fort is in really good shape with interesting signage. The park is free but fort is $6 for adults (cash or check, only). Last fort admittance at 4:15pm. Open Memorial Day to Columbus Day.
Grave is near the back of the cemetery on the right hand side when you drive in. Go past the arch on the hill to your right. Tom is atop a family obelisk. We used findagrave.com to locate him.
Hotel is noisy when there are events. Views are fantastic and the hotel is conveniently located to charming downtown Red Bank.
Still under construction and covered in scaffolding. There is a small information center only open Tuesday through Saturday. Close to the highway.
This monument sits in a park sitting on a bluff overlooking Manhattan and the Hudson. The views of the city are phenomenal. Would highly recommend visiting even if you don't care about the dueling grounds.